2 years this week since travelling to Rwanda with The FA as a part of the Changing Lives Programme.
2 years since I was threatened to be thrown out of a hotel window, forgot the pin code to the safe, got food poisoning and, jokes aside, had the most amazing experience.
During that week Jacques who looked after us said, going to another country is like getting a degree with the amount you learn.. far more than your set our or expect to. Just like a degree, the learning doesn't always seem useful or make sense straight away. It is over time, reflection and taking a step back which allows dots to be connected.
The more I reflect, the more I see the food poisoning and Rwandan Hospital situation a blessing in disguise. Before flying out I was told to start believing in myself - something I'm still not great at - but that day of not being at the festival but being told of how the leaders I was working with did, took on challenges and let the kids play made and continues to remind me that even when we think we aren't we most certainly are making a difference.
The fact that young leader meant experience, nobody is too old to learn or at a disadvantage because of time passed. But rather the willingness and desire to learn, to use football to make a difference.The fact that people who have lived through the genocide and lost friends and family were and are able to move on and want to make a difference to the lives of others is nothing short of phenomenal.
Actually, those little things, the moments, those are the big things. Whether it was the awkward valentines lift moment, pillow fights, Cool Runnings in the hotel in London before we left. The realisation of how much people care, how much The FA has invested in me as a person to make a difference to others. That difference might be incredibly small in the eyes of a coach or leader in England, but in a country which has been 'through the mill' of turbulent times, making a difference to 4 people's lives is a tremendous effort and to those 4 people, it is huge.
A time where adaptability was everything. Oh no we've no kit! Where have all these kids come from? My leaders are still explaining and we started 5 minutes ago! Typical, we come to Africa and bring a flood of rain with us! Sarah can you speak French?, 'oui' - oh no now they think I'm fluent! These things happen. But how we responded was the key.
Mistakes happened every 2 seconds, But I guess after the greatest storms come the clearest skies. The struggles, the mistakes, the doubts, the 'what am I doings?' turned into, they've got it, changes to games, new ideas, leaders not standing in the middle of the session for it to happen, organisation and progress.
It might not be down to me, but I'd like to think I helped, seeing photos of returning leaders last year and recognising those who I mentored, seeing they had returned to learn more. We all know that it is positive experiences which bring kids back [or parents], but that is the same for all of us. What a rewarding thought.
The more I reflect, the more I know Big John is right.. it's all about people. And it always is. How we move things forwards. Those who I travelled with who are now life long friends, people who spent the week allowing me to make my mistakes and learn from them [never order a Rwandan burger!] people who care, and that is something really special.
The memories make me smile everyday. The thought that I had a positive influence in the life of another is beyond belief. Knowing I was confident and able to deliver an international programme and support the journey of others and my peers - that's beyond words.
Those small things, those moments.. it turns out they were the really big things.
Tuesday, 16 February 2016
Saturday, 26 December 2015
2015 - Remembering the Peaks
It's been quite a year. I think that's an understatement, one I can only appreciate at a time when I have been able to slow down and reach a stop.
Up until December 15th, I'd been rolling full steam ahead, picking up power ups and Wumpa Fruit [Google Crash Bandicoot] on the way and hadn't really paused to think and reflect. If you've read the prior post, you'd see I haven't blogged for few months, and in doing so transported myself into 'The Real World.'
On December 15th I travelled to Wembley, had a couple of phone calls on the way, joined a meeting with fellow FA National Game Youth Council members, had a couple of hours in a coffee shop and my first experience of Wagamamas - don't worry I hadn't heard of it either. A day of firsts, a day of over coming challenges, a day of celebrating. There are 2 reasons that day was a stand out, firstly, I had time to think and genuinely reflect on the year and the few weeks leading up until then of non-stop travelling, meetings, graduation, conferences and life. A line from a phone call, 'Sarah, you sound tired.' [Cheers SL] Yeah, I was. No 2 ways about it. I guess, I was so wrapped up in everything going on, I didn't get a chance to catch my breathe and see what I was doing. Was that didn't get a chance? Or didn't create a chance?
Point 2, over tea, my first experience of squid and eating a Japanese soup with chop-sticks [you're right, chop-sticks and soup don't work!] Donna McIvor said to me, 'Sarah, you've had quite a year, Youth Council, graduation, your job..'
I think I've needed someone/ people to bring me back to reality, and those 2 moments were exactly that.
I guess the pursuit and gaining of employment took over, am I surprised? No. Have I made a mistake in not giving myself enough Sarah time? Yes. Does that worry me? No. I'm new to this full time work malarkey, going to make mistakes and do so on a hourly basis, if not sooner.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of work and being busy, all for what?
The real challenge hasn't been in my job, Youth Council, moving away as such... but how I have approached it all. I'd be lying if I said the last 6 months have been easy. There have been days where I want to get in my car and drive home, leave Somerset life behind. Days where I sit and worry about, well, everything. Times where I just want to get through the day and keep all emotions in check, that side cant be seen yet. As commonly told, that's ok though, it all proves I'm human.. but that's not the point.
2015 has been a culmination of everything I've learnt and an expression of the person I am and becoming.. which I am very proud of. The older I get [calm down, still 21] the more I am realising it is the small things which are important. I look back on graduating, National Camp, NGYC, the job and yeah those are great, but it is the gaps between the notes, the walking in between which make those mountain tops so special. The trips to Bath, Loughborough, Doncaster, Salisbury and beyond which have created endless memories. The phone calls and emails holding photos, jokes and I guess a safety net to fall into. But most importantly, the people. Those who take ordinary occasions and make them extraordinary. My family, the Football Futures Family and my colleagues. Those who have made moving to Somerset, working life and life in general easier and enjoyable.
Moments stored in this jar which I cant wait to open in a few days time to relive the year and the things which have made me smile. I guess you could call them all lollipop moments.
Up until December 15th, I'd been rolling full steam ahead, picking up power ups and Wumpa Fruit [Google Crash Bandicoot] on the way and hadn't really paused to think and reflect. If you've read the prior post, you'd see I haven't blogged for few months, and in doing so transported myself into 'The Real World.'
On December 15th I travelled to Wembley, had a couple of phone calls on the way, joined a meeting with fellow FA National Game Youth Council members, had a couple of hours in a coffee shop and my first experience of Wagamamas - don't worry I hadn't heard of it either. A day of firsts, a day of over coming challenges, a day of celebrating. There are 2 reasons that day was a stand out, firstly, I had time to think and genuinely reflect on the year and the few weeks leading up until then of non-stop travelling, meetings, graduation, conferences and life. A line from a phone call, 'Sarah, you sound tired.' [Cheers SL] Yeah, I was. No 2 ways about it. I guess, I was so wrapped up in everything going on, I didn't get a chance to catch my breathe and see what I was doing. Was that didn't get a chance? Or didn't create a chance?
Point 2, over tea, my first experience of squid and eating a Japanese soup with chop-sticks [you're right, chop-sticks and soup don't work!] Donna McIvor said to me, 'Sarah, you've had quite a year, Youth Council, graduation, your job..'
I think I've needed someone/ people to bring me back to reality, and those 2 moments were exactly that.
I guess the pursuit and gaining of employment took over, am I surprised? No. Have I made a mistake in not giving myself enough Sarah time? Yes. Does that worry me? No. I'm new to this full time work malarkey, going to make mistakes and do so on a hourly basis, if not sooner.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of work and being busy, all for what?
The real challenge hasn't been in my job, Youth Council, moving away as such... but how I have approached it all. I'd be lying if I said the last 6 months have been easy. There have been days where I want to get in my car and drive home, leave Somerset life behind. Days where I sit and worry about, well, everything. Times where I just want to get through the day and keep all emotions in check, that side cant be seen yet. As commonly told, that's ok though, it all proves I'm human.. but that's not the point.
2015 has been a culmination of everything I've learnt and an expression of the person I am and becoming.. which I am very proud of. The older I get [calm down, still 21] the more I am realising it is the small things which are important. I look back on graduating, National Camp, NGYC, the job and yeah those are great, but it is the gaps between the notes, the walking in between which make those mountain tops so special. The trips to Bath, Loughborough, Doncaster, Salisbury and beyond which have created endless memories. The phone calls and emails holding photos, jokes and I guess a safety net to fall into. But most importantly, the people. Those who take ordinary occasions and make them extraordinary. My family, the Football Futures Family and my colleagues. Those who have made moving to Somerset, working life and life in general easier and enjoyable.
Moments stored in this jar which I cant wait to open in a few days time to relive the year and the things which have made me smile. I guess you could call them all lollipop moments.
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| Smile Moments 2015 |
So much has gone into the peaks of 2015. I know 2016 will be great, I don't know where the Sarah Nickless Party Bus will go next.. but I know I have the right people travelling with me.
SN
Saturday, 1 August 2015
Interval.
Blogging over the last couple of years has been a lot of fun, I am certain that I have achieved what I set out to. I see now as a good time to call it a day and leave things on these thoughts.
The last 5 seasons have been surreal. Little did I know that October 15th 2010 would be the start of something really special. That 15 minutes of hell, being told to stop playing the game I love was the first of many turning points. Was it a set back, or a change of direction?
To those who have supported the journey in some shape of form, thank you. To the Football Futures Family who have helped me, challenged my thoughts and been amazing companions along the way - you're all heroes.
I cant ever begin to word how much of an impact Football Futures has had on my life. To say it has changed my life, would be an understatement. The power of the game to develop people is something really special. To now be in a position to support the development of others through the programme which has helped me so much is incredible.
The pause button has been firmly pressed on blogging, this isn't a stop, but a rest on the way. A time for me to focus on what is important. I'm going to be doing what Miley said, 'Keep on movin', Keep Climbin.' It is all about the climb, the journey, the peaks and troughs which now will become a lot more personal and frequent.. a time which all of these blogged experiences will become my hand book for working life.
SN
#FFCamp15
Here goes, the FA National Football Futures Camp 2015, formulated thoughts and reflections. In the immediate thoughts I mentioned how I never thought I'd ever have the opportunities I have done, nor did I think football could provide me with such amazing moments.. and I didn't think that some volunteering thing could become such a pivotal part of my life. To some Football Futures is just a programme, but to many it's an emotional life changing thing that just so happens to encompass a mutual love of football. A programme that brings me to tears far too often, but emotions mean you care right?
The last few months have been a whirlwind. I also have previously said that my NGYC and Football Futures pathway is fragile. I know so. Fragile because my life has changed, hugely, over the last month. Moving to Somerset and starting my first full time role in football is on one hand amazing - the dream is coming alive, on the other hand it is the most scary and nerve racking thing I have ever been through. Many would say that all of my FF (Football Futures) opportunities and events have paid off. I don't see it that way. To me the opportunities have been taken because I wanted to, not because I thought they would lead to an extrinsic reward of a job. This move and life event has ruffled feathers of normality of coaching every week and spending a lot of time towards Youth Council work.. The worrying fragility and uncertain future of my FF involvement is just that worrying. It was these nerves which I took into FFCamp15. Nerves of knowing this might be my last Camp, being uncertain of putting in a NGYC application for the new season and starting to worry about the big move.
Our last event as the NGYC for the 2014/15 term, it was going to be special no 2 ways about it. As a team we are/ were incredibly passionate about the children and young people within our game. It was and has been so enjoyable to spend time who all share the same vision and goal in moving football into a better position than when found. I have made and built unbelievable friendships and personally developed far beyond measure over the last year and a half. Camp seemed to be a fairytale end to what has been a surreal time with the team.
It seems irrelevant to give a breakdown of the week - there other posts which have done that from previous years. Camp aims to reward the young leaders who are making a real difference in their counties, but it is a comma not a full stop. A point to reflect on the distance travelled so far, the challenges and successes, and a point to plan and think ahead to what it to come. To inspire and support people as people, helping them to become better citizens, not just developing the football workforce.
It always amazes me the power of football, FF and National Camp. 99 strangers turning up on the Monday and then leaving as friends just a few days later. The 99 journeys which take place, and more than that.. the journeys of staff and Youth Council members. Being a part of that is special. Getting to know people, their journey to camp, motivations and ambitions you cant really word it. Well I cant.
Before Camp started, we as staff, mentors, NGYC discussed what success looks like, if you can answer that then well done. I cant. It looks different to everyone. Success may have been getting to camp, answering a question in a workshop, presenting in front of a group, making friends, understanding options ahead. Whatever it is/was, our job was to help to make that happen. The word 'journey' gets banded about a lot, but camp is about understanding where you are on your journey, and working out where the next steps will come from. Not comparing yourself to others, but comparing yourself to yourself. Now we're getting a bit deep, but understanding the significance of what you're doing, the challenges ahead and what the overarching success is to look like. It is these meaningful relationships, conversations and moments which make Camp, well, Camp. The memories I hold from 3 years ago are what might seem like insignificant moments to many - but the mentors, NGYC and staff are what make Camp so special, and we cant ever underestimate the power of a spoken word or taking the time to just listen. This is why understanding what success looks like is so important.
As I said previously, I was and continue to be inspired by the young people within the game. Those who really care and are determined to be a better version of themselves. I watched young leaders last week develop across 4 days, come out of their shells and in many ways I saw parts of myself in others. Those who showed an immense amount of passion and care in what they were doing. Who got as much out of camp as they possibly could. It's really difficult to word the feeling of seeing that and being fortunate enough to be a part in helping other people. I am and ordinary person who has made the most of the opportunities on offer, and it has led to a position of such importance to inspire others to maybe follow in my footsteps, or alongside - we're not creating robots remember.
I thought a week would be enough to construct actual thoughts about Camp, but I'm not so sure.
Camp this year has brought home how important FF is. And yes, I know, I keep banging on about it. I made the decision to present during the closing ceremony of camp, maybe a silly move as I have cried throughout the previous 2, but I decided that was a challenge I wanted to put ahead of myself. Many people wouldn't know that I nearly didn't speak. Moments before I was due to stand up and open the closing, I found myself crying and shaking sat by the tea and coffee. The moment really got to me. I've spoken so many times before and got to a point where I actually quite enjoy it.. but closing Camp seemed a step too far. When something mean so much, emotions and the moment gets magnified by like a billion. Camp and FF is that important to me, that I let my emotions take full control - the chimp wasn't being tamed if you like.
If Camp is about the small wins, then that was certainly mine. The cape was certainly on, and if anything else it proved to me how amazing my FF Family is. It would have been easy for the guys to go on and deliver the closing without me, but they didn't. Huge thanks to Adam, Kieren and Luke for sitting with me, giving me time to compose myself and backing me to deliver what I did. It is moments like that which make you realise what and who is important - to me making me realise how much FF and the NGYC mean and how much I want it all to remain a part of what I do. Somehow, not sure how.
Camp maybe over, but the memories and friendships will last a lifetime. It's as much about those running it, as it is the for the young leaders. The structure of Camp may change and evolve, but the great thing is it always brings in new people. It is difficult to word the feelings, emotions and reflections.. maybe I over estimated my ability to do so.. but sometimes we need to remember what it is all about.
As Kirsty Whitton rightly said at the start of the week, although talking about Camp, I think this sums up the entire essence of Football Futures:
'It's how much of an impact you can have on a person, as a person.'
Powerful stuff.
The last few months have been a whirlwind. I also have previously said that my NGYC and Football Futures pathway is fragile. I know so. Fragile because my life has changed, hugely, over the last month. Moving to Somerset and starting my first full time role in football is on one hand amazing - the dream is coming alive, on the other hand it is the most scary and nerve racking thing I have ever been through. Many would say that all of my FF (Football Futures) opportunities and events have paid off. I don't see it that way. To me the opportunities have been taken because I wanted to, not because I thought they would lead to an extrinsic reward of a job. This move and life event has ruffled feathers of normality of coaching every week and spending a lot of time towards Youth Council work.. The worrying fragility and uncertain future of my FF involvement is just that worrying. It was these nerves which I took into FFCamp15. Nerves of knowing this might be my last Camp, being uncertain of putting in a NGYC application for the new season and starting to worry about the big move.
Our last event as the NGYC for the 2014/15 term, it was going to be special no 2 ways about it. As a team we are/ were incredibly passionate about the children and young people within our game. It was and has been so enjoyable to spend time who all share the same vision and goal in moving football into a better position than when found. I have made and built unbelievable friendships and personally developed far beyond measure over the last year and a half. Camp seemed to be a fairytale end to what has been a surreal time with the team.
It seems irrelevant to give a breakdown of the week - there other posts which have done that from previous years. Camp aims to reward the young leaders who are making a real difference in their counties, but it is a comma not a full stop. A point to reflect on the distance travelled so far, the challenges and successes, and a point to plan and think ahead to what it to come. To inspire and support people as people, helping them to become better citizens, not just developing the football workforce.
It always amazes me the power of football, FF and National Camp. 99 strangers turning up on the Monday and then leaving as friends just a few days later. The 99 journeys which take place, and more than that.. the journeys of staff and Youth Council members. Being a part of that is special. Getting to know people, their journey to camp, motivations and ambitions you cant really word it. Well I cant.
Before Camp started, we as staff, mentors, NGYC discussed what success looks like, if you can answer that then well done. I cant. It looks different to everyone. Success may have been getting to camp, answering a question in a workshop, presenting in front of a group, making friends, understanding options ahead. Whatever it is/was, our job was to help to make that happen. The word 'journey' gets banded about a lot, but camp is about understanding where you are on your journey, and working out where the next steps will come from. Not comparing yourself to others, but comparing yourself to yourself. Now we're getting a bit deep, but understanding the significance of what you're doing, the challenges ahead and what the overarching success is to look like. It is these meaningful relationships, conversations and moments which make Camp, well, Camp. The memories I hold from 3 years ago are what might seem like insignificant moments to many - but the mentors, NGYC and staff are what make Camp so special, and we cant ever underestimate the power of a spoken word or taking the time to just listen. This is why understanding what success looks like is so important.
As I said previously, I was and continue to be inspired by the young people within the game. Those who really care and are determined to be a better version of themselves. I watched young leaders last week develop across 4 days, come out of their shells and in many ways I saw parts of myself in others. Those who showed an immense amount of passion and care in what they were doing. Who got as much out of camp as they possibly could. It's really difficult to word the feeling of seeing that and being fortunate enough to be a part in helping other people. I am and ordinary person who has made the most of the opportunities on offer, and it has led to a position of such importance to inspire others to maybe follow in my footsteps, or alongside - we're not creating robots remember.
I thought a week would be enough to construct actual thoughts about Camp, but I'm not so sure.
Camp this year has brought home how important FF is. And yes, I know, I keep banging on about it. I made the decision to present during the closing ceremony of camp, maybe a silly move as I have cried throughout the previous 2, but I decided that was a challenge I wanted to put ahead of myself. Many people wouldn't know that I nearly didn't speak. Moments before I was due to stand up and open the closing, I found myself crying and shaking sat by the tea and coffee. The moment really got to me. I've spoken so many times before and got to a point where I actually quite enjoy it.. but closing Camp seemed a step too far. When something mean so much, emotions and the moment gets magnified by like a billion. Camp and FF is that important to me, that I let my emotions take full control - the chimp wasn't being tamed if you like.
If Camp is about the small wins, then that was certainly mine. The cape was certainly on, and if anything else it proved to me how amazing my FF Family is. It would have been easy for the guys to go on and deliver the closing without me, but they didn't. Huge thanks to Adam, Kieren and Luke for sitting with me, giving me time to compose myself and backing me to deliver what I did. It is moments like that which make you realise what and who is important - to me making me realise how much FF and the NGYC mean and how much I want it all to remain a part of what I do. Somehow, not sure how.
Camp maybe over, but the memories and friendships will last a lifetime. It's as much about those running it, as it is the for the young leaders. The structure of Camp may change and evolve, but the great thing is it always brings in new people. It is difficult to word the feelings, emotions and reflections.. maybe I over estimated my ability to do so.. but sometimes we need to remember what it is all about.
As Kirsty Whitton rightly said at the start of the week, although talking about Camp, I think this sums up the entire essence of Football Futures:
'It's how much of an impact you can have on a person, as a person.'
Powerful stuff.
Friday, 24 July 2015
Immediate Thoughts - #FFCamp15
The last 6 days have been amazing - so amazing that I cannot word nor begin to explain. Nor am I going to. Well aware of my reflective capabilities, I'm going to sit on my thoughts for the next week or so and pull them together when I can catch my breathe.
Not wanting to leave the blog on a blank slate, I'll attempt to drop my immediate thoughts, hopefully they will make sense or offer some suggestion of what I mean.
In the pre-camp blog I said I went into the week with a different kind of nerves. An apprehension of not knowing where my National Game Youth Council or Football Futures path leads. Nerves of wanting to better last year, knowing that the little things were going to be the difference.
I've always said the event and destination isn't always the important part, but the people you are travelling and working with. This week has allowed me to build some amazing friendships, strengthen ones which are already there and work with 99 outstanding young people who have truly inspired me.
There have been many 'smile moments' and I'm glad that people have taken on board the idea of lollipop moments. Small random moments of significance to you, not to the world but to the individual. Some people might not realise they are creating them, but lollipop moments are all around us - we need to start recognising them and celebrating them.
Entering the week I didn't set any goals, but my thoughts were around quality not quantity. Could I have a handful of meaningful impacts / relationships over numerous insignificant ones? I'd like to think I've achieved that. How do I know they've been meaningful? I don't know, the messages I've received today have blown me away and might be proof - but it's in what comes next. Do those people go and make a bigger difference?
I'm flitting between thoughts and ideas, rolling through Camp Blues and to be honest don't really know where I'm going with this. Never did I think I'd get the privilege of this journey, neither did I think it would take over my life and emotions. How wrong could I be?
This week I've felt like the richest person in the world. Rich on life, the exhilarating moments it has given me. The opportunity to meet and spend time with people and then see them progress. See them eager and determined to learn, to want to do more and be more.
Before the emotions take over, again, I'm going to leave it here, well until I can formulate actually relevant and structured thoughts and feelings..
I'm exceptionally proud to be a Football Futures Ambassador, to be associated with something which actively changes people's lives through the most amazing vehicle of football. Leadership isn't something we should work towards, but something we should embrace. Football Futures changes the lives of the people who understand the importance of being a better person, and striving to develop themselves and others.
You don't have to change the world, to change the world; there are 6 billions perceptions of the world, and if you can change one person's view, then you have done just that.
Saturday, 18 July 2015
FFCamp15 - Pre-Camp
There's a video on FATV somewhere from day 1 of the FA Football Futures National Camp 2012, unfortunately for the viewers I feature a couple of times and have been caught saying, 'I've come to be inspired so that I can go and inspire.' At that moment in time I knew I was embarking on a special journey, which had in fact already started, I was in presence of some incredible people, but hadn't yet realised and was about to enjoy a week which was to change my viewpoint on football completely. 3 years on, we are hours from The FA Football Futures National Camp 2015 and I'm a part of the FA's National Game Youth Council who will be delivering the week.
3 years ago, I enjoyed 5 days at Hereford College for the Blind, surrounded by enthusiastic young leaders who wanted to be better, at what I'm not too sure. At the time we all thought better at our football related roles, now it's a much different thought.. In actual fact we were becoming better people. (For a full view on FFCamp12 check out the 'Leader Life Leader Legacy' post from a few years ago). What Camp taught me, and Football Futures continues to do so, is that the destination isn't always apparent, the journey is most important - that developing moving pathway we're all on- essential to that is our companions along the way. My 5 days at Camp were inspiring, my peers, camp councillors (now mentors) and the Youth Council who ran the week. I walked away wanting to become someone like the people I had the pleasure of being with that week. I'd like to think I'm on the right track, but after all, we're not human shaped robots following each other and creating copies.
Now moving towards my 3rd Camp, 2nd as a part of the FA National Game Youth Council, I'm as excited and apprehensive as I was 3 years ago, but now for many different reasons. I'm now the one doing the inspiring, well trying. I have an incredible amount of time for the people who inspired me those years ago, without them and in fairness the memories I wouldn't be who and where I am. It's my role to inspire others to go and be the best they can be, to help them and offer advice and guidance. That's huge. Last year, I learnt what it feels like to do just that. Words cannot even begin to cover it. To inspire and influence staff, mentors and young leaders. Young leaders who mentioned me in their blogs, tweet and update me on how their lives are going.. That's something really special.
This year, I sense a different kind of nerves. To steal a quote from Steve Swallow, this is our 'swan song' (who knew swans could sing?!) as the National team that we are. My future is starting to unfold and being 100% honest I don't know where my NGYC and Football Futures path leads to or looks like. Some would say that's exciting, for me that fragile. For something which has been a huge part in my recent life and journey to where I am, being uncertain isn't pleasant. It means too much, and I don't really want it to end. 'Letting go' as it's been described, but I guess my grip is too tight. I get the feeling this may be the end to a new beginning, one door closing and all that... I maybe wrong.
The tweets are starting to roll in as we edge closer. More proudly, I'm reading tweets from last year's Young Leaders. People who I spoke to and helped, just to get through a week, who are saying how camp made them feel and what they're up to.. It's fantastic to be apart of. I am really looking forwards to seeing and meeting this years' group of 99 young leaders, getting to know them and understand the current climate of young people in football. The environment of camp might be similar, but it's new people. And that the great thing about it.
As Football Futures is changing we need to keep up, remember it's about collecting experiences, not hours. For those attending next week, we need to fuel them with enthusiasm and give them the best experience they've had yet. Quite a challenge? I think so. An exciting challenge, most definitely. For me, Camp is a catalyst for thoughts of where / who we are and where we want to be.. The catalyst in realising that leap of faith is possible.
I expect an emotion packed week where I will pick up and learn just as much as the young leaders attending. I've not yet set an goals, bit of shock coming from me, the only real thought is not to cry during closing ceremony, again. 3rd time lucky I guess. We may have timetables and plans, but it will be an unpredictable week.
My only advice to all involved: make the experience count.
Wednesday, 3 June 2015
Women's Sport Week 2015 - BBC Women in Football Debate
This week [beginning 1st June] is Women in Sport Week. A week to celebrate females in sport and how far it has come, that of performers, journalists, coaches, officials and so much more. Today I was at the National Football Museum in Manchester for the Women in Football debate, representing The FA and FA National Game Youth Council. Alongside me were a number of females who hold a plethora of different roles within football, journalists to editors, directors to coaches to discuss key problems females face within the game.
Led by Jacqui Oatley a panel of females discussed the current FIFA issue and how females should be holding higher order roles within the game. The problem of sexism in football doesn't seem to be going away, over 66% of females say they have been exposed to a sexist act, however 89% of women say they wouldn't report a problem if they saw one. We need to know where to draw the line, how do we know where banter ends and sexism starts? Who decides? Every female will have their own 'banter tolerance' which will vary, some will take more than others. Sexism is now a thing of the minority, not the majority. But that still is not enough. 14/ 15 year old Izzy, a coach from Blackpool spoke of the troubles she has faced. She has faced sexism already, players questioning why females are coaching, why she isn't playing netball and doing girl stuff. Is this a problem being caused by the players, or do we need to look wider? Are parents and the older generation imposing their archaic views on our young generation and players? Instilling beliefs which are being outdated by the day, influencing perceptions which is influencing the game. Although a minority, this group could tip and roll into a minority if the wrong voices are heard [See Malcolm Gladwell - Tipping Point for further thoughts]. 'Women are getting everywhere' was another quote, we're not trying to steal the game of football, just be a part of it and make it OUR game.
The number of females taking up senior positions within the game is increasing, the want for more is also increasing. Part of me thinks this is the right way to go, but as it was alluded to, we should be looking for the 'right' people, and the right person shouldn't come in to end a stigma or stereotype, but because they are the right person for the job. Is it all about getting females in within higher order roles? Definitely not. Yes, that is a nice ambition and vision, but the ideal view is to have more females working in the game at all levels. I don't think there is a right way, is it get people in the top and work down, or flood the bottom with females who can work up. Or, can we attack all areas and just have a simple goal of increasing the number of females within the game?
The talk of role models and use of education was seemingly constant. Education around the possibilities within the game. A game which is bigger than the game, if that makes sense. Football is much more than the 22 players on a pitch and referee. The stadium built around the pitch represents the plethora of different roles available, marketing, punditry, reporting, development, education, working in football clubs, the list could be endless.. but most people wouldn't know it. Is this lack of knowledge stalling the snowball at the top of the hill before it gathers speed? Is it education around what is on offer which is needed to get more females into the game? Maybe. Programmes and projects are already in place to try and achieve this outcome, Women in Sport are piloting a scheme which takes female role models from different areas of the game into schools to speak to Year 11s about the opportunities on offer. Maybe year 11 isn't the right year, but this is the pilot, hoping to influence young people and hopefully open up different thoughts around college and university options.
What we need to be aware of is that everybody is a role model in one way or another. It's not all about those with major social status working at an elite level. I'm quite open to the fact that all of my role models can be found in my phone contacts, they are tangible people who inspire me everyday in life not just football. They inspire me because of who they are, not what they do. I think we need to be aware when using 'role models' that they are relatable and can provide insight and direction. I watched a TED talk earlier this week - link at the bottom - by a guy called Drew Dudley around everyday leadership. He tells a story of how he made someone's life better through a 'lollipop moment' I recommend watching the video. A 'lollipop moment' is a tiny moment where someone does something or says something which changes your life for the better. That person may not even realise they've done it. What we miss out, is telling them they've done and recognising it. The video aims to define leadership, it's not a status to work towards, but something we all hold and perform acts of all of the time. Just because it's not changing 'THE' world, doesn't mean it wont change someone's perception of it. I've had my own lollipop moment, as I'm sure you will have too. Mine was a cheesey wotsit moment, but it's something you remember which has made a difference.
The point of me putting the above, as I hope you will have been able to pick up, females at all levels of the game inspire others. Just by being in the game, others are being inspired to follow in the footsteps. Having tangible mentors, role models and people to ask for advice is important to maintain people in the game. There is valuable evidence that social learning is more effective than formal learning, working with experienced others support this - maybe this is something we can exploit within our game?
The next few weeks/ months are incredibly exciting for female football, the world cup, FIFA16 news and the increased age for mixed football. It's a great time to be in the game, but as those working within it wanting to increase the female influence, we need to make the best use we can of this time.
I had an incredible day today and even managed to throw my own 50 pence worth in around coaching and my view of what we should be focusing on, lets remember personalities are more important than abilities. It was fantastic to be in the same room as other females who have really made a difference within the game in all areas and are passionate about developing the game and influencing others to become a part of it.
Female football is in the best place it has ever been in. Maybe it is lagging behind, catching up on the 50 years which were missed out, or just taking slow and steady steps in the right direction. A hard and fast approach probably isn't right, as females we're probably questioning every decision hundreds of times before going through with it and planning in depth to make sure everything will work out.
Slow and steady wins the race right? The ever changing nature of the game is obvious, but change for the good. The majority are pulling in the right direction and progress is being made.
Change is inevitable, progress is optional.
Be grey.
Drew Dudley: Everyday Leadership - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uAy6EawKKME
Led by Jacqui Oatley a panel of females discussed the current FIFA issue and how females should be holding higher order roles within the game. The problem of sexism in football doesn't seem to be going away, over 66% of females say they have been exposed to a sexist act, however 89% of women say they wouldn't report a problem if they saw one. We need to know where to draw the line, how do we know where banter ends and sexism starts? Who decides? Every female will have their own 'banter tolerance' which will vary, some will take more than others. Sexism is now a thing of the minority, not the majority. But that still is not enough. 14/ 15 year old Izzy, a coach from Blackpool spoke of the troubles she has faced. She has faced sexism already, players questioning why females are coaching, why she isn't playing netball and doing girl stuff. Is this a problem being caused by the players, or do we need to look wider? Are parents and the older generation imposing their archaic views on our young generation and players? Instilling beliefs which are being outdated by the day, influencing perceptions which is influencing the game. Although a minority, this group could tip and roll into a minority if the wrong voices are heard [See Malcolm Gladwell - Tipping Point for further thoughts]. 'Women are getting everywhere' was another quote, we're not trying to steal the game of football, just be a part of it and make it OUR game.
The number of females taking up senior positions within the game is increasing, the want for more is also increasing. Part of me thinks this is the right way to go, but as it was alluded to, we should be looking for the 'right' people, and the right person shouldn't come in to end a stigma or stereotype, but because they are the right person for the job. Is it all about getting females in within higher order roles? Definitely not. Yes, that is a nice ambition and vision, but the ideal view is to have more females working in the game at all levels. I don't think there is a right way, is it get people in the top and work down, or flood the bottom with females who can work up. Or, can we attack all areas and just have a simple goal of increasing the number of females within the game?
The talk of role models and use of education was seemingly constant. Education around the possibilities within the game. A game which is bigger than the game, if that makes sense. Football is much more than the 22 players on a pitch and referee. The stadium built around the pitch represents the plethora of different roles available, marketing, punditry, reporting, development, education, working in football clubs, the list could be endless.. but most people wouldn't know it. Is this lack of knowledge stalling the snowball at the top of the hill before it gathers speed? Is it education around what is on offer which is needed to get more females into the game? Maybe. Programmes and projects are already in place to try and achieve this outcome, Women in Sport are piloting a scheme which takes female role models from different areas of the game into schools to speak to Year 11s about the opportunities on offer. Maybe year 11 isn't the right year, but this is the pilot, hoping to influence young people and hopefully open up different thoughts around college and university options.
What we need to be aware of is that everybody is a role model in one way or another. It's not all about those with major social status working at an elite level. I'm quite open to the fact that all of my role models can be found in my phone contacts, they are tangible people who inspire me everyday in life not just football. They inspire me because of who they are, not what they do. I think we need to be aware when using 'role models' that they are relatable and can provide insight and direction. I watched a TED talk earlier this week - link at the bottom - by a guy called Drew Dudley around everyday leadership. He tells a story of how he made someone's life better through a 'lollipop moment' I recommend watching the video. A 'lollipop moment' is a tiny moment where someone does something or says something which changes your life for the better. That person may not even realise they've done it. What we miss out, is telling them they've done and recognising it. The video aims to define leadership, it's not a status to work towards, but something we all hold and perform acts of all of the time. Just because it's not changing 'THE' world, doesn't mean it wont change someone's perception of it. I've had my own lollipop moment, as I'm sure you will have too. Mine was a cheesey wotsit moment, but it's something you remember which has made a difference.
The point of me putting the above, as I hope you will have been able to pick up, females at all levels of the game inspire others. Just by being in the game, others are being inspired to follow in the footsteps. Having tangible mentors, role models and people to ask for advice is important to maintain people in the game. There is valuable evidence that social learning is more effective than formal learning, working with experienced others support this - maybe this is something we can exploit within our game?
The next few weeks/ months are incredibly exciting for female football, the world cup, FIFA16 news and the increased age for mixed football. It's a great time to be in the game, but as those working within it wanting to increase the female influence, we need to make the best use we can of this time.
I had an incredible day today and even managed to throw my own 50 pence worth in around coaching and my view of what we should be focusing on, lets remember personalities are more important than abilities. It was fantastic to be in the same room as other females who have really made a difference within the game in all areas and are passionate about developing the game and influencing others to become a part of it.
Female football is in the best place it has ever been in. Maybe it is lagging behind, catching up on the 50 years which were missed out, or just taking slow and steady steps in the right direction. A hard and fast approach probably isn't right, as females we're probably questioning every decision hundreds of times before going through with it and planning in depth to make sure everything will work out.
Slow and steady wins the race right? The ever changing nature of the game is obvious, but change for the good. The majority are pulling in the right direction and progress is being made.
Change is inevitable, progress is optional.
Be grey.
Drew Dudley: Everyday Leadership - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uAy6EawKKME
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