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Wednesday, 26 November 2014

National Game Youth Council 2014

I've literally no idea where the year has gone. December 2013 getting 'The Call' off Lauren to say I've had my application accepted, I can remember the shine in my Dad's eyes when I told him, he knowing also, how much the NGYC means to me and how much I wanted to be a part of it. 

The anticipation and apprehension of meeting the team for the first team, nerves and worry of it all, wanting to make a good first impression, being on a team led by people who I look up to. The stress of the not knowing what to expect, already doubting myself before leaving the start line. And this was all before we started. 

Now on my way home from Wembley (well I was when I wrote this) with a backpack full of memories, I can't help but think and enjoy revelling in the years' successes, events and developments. This year has gone well above and beyond everything which I expected. A group of people, now a team. Strangers, who are now friends. This doesn't just happen by accident. 

This year has shown me where I want to take my life, how much working with young people means to me and that Laura Danskin was right 2 years ago. Looks like football development probably is for me. 

It's not been easy. Please don't take the good news stories and positivity as sign it's been a pleasurable walk in the park, because it's been far from it. Challenges which I didn't expect to face, none more that those which I created myself. I'm known for underestimating my abilities and low self confidence, I constantly tell myself I need to work on it.. But these aren't things which you can pull out of your backpack everyday. It's a common thought of, 'why should people believe in/ have confidence in you if you don't believe in yourself?' A very worthy question. 

Challenges of communication, learning to be smarter and using a method which gets responses, not what's easiest. I started the year knowing the end destination but not knowing how to get there. Wanting to develop youth set ups in the North West, but I didn't think about the how. I've learnt that you can't just impose ideas on people and hope they agree. You've got to create and build relationships. Understand each other's aims, values and objectives and then build for the future together. This isn't to say I've made it to the end destinations, but what I've achieved and succeeded in has been a lot more sustainable and effective.

I've learnt that life is like a jigsaw, NGYC life that is. You can't throw all the pieces on the floor and hope they land in the right places. You've got to take time to create the smaller connections and build from there. Enjoy the small successes, when something just clicks, you make a small break through.. Which will then add up to make a bigger impact before completing and seeing the bigger picture. It's understanding that no-one reaches the top of the ladder with 1 large step, but a series of steps which add up. 

Now, sitting back and reflecting, as I do, I can genuinely see the person I've become over the year. The slow thinker hasn't changed, but the outcomes of thinking have. The pessimist in the face of challenge has learnt to bounce back a little better, stand a little stronger and see the opportunity in the challenge. And opportunity is the right word, I've had the opportunity to meet and work with so many amazing people. Amazing in their own right. Passionate people who want to drive change in football. The opportunity to sing in front of 120+ people, to deliver presentations at the BUCS Football Development Conference, Football Futures Conference and Activator Inductions. The opportunity to make a difference. 

The days spent doing youth council work, and being with the team are ones I cherish and look forwards to. They are the brighter days which allow me to put the stress of uni and life to one side, and really work to developing something for other people. 

'Inspiration is contagious, you've just got to be around the right people to catch it.' I feel fortunate to have been around a group of unbelievable people. People who care about the development of their peers as much as the development of their counties. I must thank them for their persistent support and help when required, for making the journey enjoyable, challenging and worthwhile. 

NGYC 2014, team it's been an honour and pleasure to have worked with you all this year. To have shared so many fantastic experiences, from camp to throwing army soldiers out of hotel windows. I have loved every minute, working with you all when we're together and for you all when we're apart. 

To Steve and Donna, thank you for your help and support this year and beyond. It's invaluable, I wouldn't be where I am or the person I am without you both. Although Steve will say, it's what you do with the opportunities you're presented with, it is also about those who travel the journey with you and help you along the way.

Kieren, a fantastic mentor and friend whose guidance has been supremely appreciated. I'm incredibly excited that our journey working together will continue, but for now - thank you for all of the time you've given me.

The year might be over, but the journey continues. Not all who wander are lost. 

To the heroes.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tgF1Enrgo2g



Tuesday, 25 November 2014

BDLA 14

A cow barn in Herefordshire, sound riveting? Possibly not. Staying in yurts.. Yeah I didn't know what they were either. Metal chairs and hay bales.. Not your average seating arrangement. Now you probably think I got lost on my way to the BUCS Deloitte Leadership Academy 2014, but in actual fact the country's 3rd best cow farm was the location of the event. A stripped back venue bearing challenges of it's own, 100 university students holding sporting leadership roles from across the country came together to experience an incredible event built to test , develop and enhance leadership skills and qualities.  With very little information, other than an extensive itinerary, the 2 day event was very secret and left us all questioning what to expect. Already excited, networking was taking place from the moment I left the train station, a 40 minute drive to the venue allowed conversation to ebb and flow. It was different to be at an event where everyone isn't completely sport orientated. Students studying math, chemistry, psychology, English literature.. who also hold a sports leadership role in their university. 100 other like minded people who had applications accepted and wanted to be there. After being allocated our yurts, for those like me - this just means posh tent, we had time to mingle and talk to other students before the opening ceremony. Tom Lewthwaite from Deloitte opened the event by saying, 'think of it as what you put into it, not what you can get out of it.' How could we make the event the best of it's kind, and by switching your mindset, it is possible. Karen Rothery, CEO of BUCS then stepped up and said, 'It's ok to be your own leader.' Leadership is as much about leading yourself as it is leading a team.

Further speeches were given by 2 Deloitte employees, who developed their leadership and employability skills through university sports leadership positions. Tyler O'Callaghan shared with us the Pillars of Leadership: Goals, Confidence and Delivery.

Goals - without them you wont achieve anything, you wont know your end destination and where you want to arrive at. Start at the end point, your destination, and work backwards. Get the buy in from others, tell everyone about your goals, not just to make things more concrete for yourself which might raise the expectation level, but they also might be able to help you along the way.

Confidence - A positive attitude inspires others. Belief in yourself is everything, how can you expect others to back you, if you don't back yourself?

Delivery - Motivation, hard-work and enjoyment. You need all 3 to be successful.

Fred Gill then spoke of his experiences in rowing in his university settings. 'Just because you lose, doesn't mean you're a bad leader.' Make sure you are a radiator not a drain. Radiate motivation and support. Don't be a drain and pull away other people's ideas and drain them of their energy. Similarly you should be a fountain not a drain pipe.

Greg Sturge completed the opening ceremony, a graduate from last years BDLA, Greg is the first BUCS intern. His advice was to be a keeno and make the most of the 2 day, 'there is always room to learn.' 

We then moved into the event itself, run by Fieri, a team of military based workers who deliver programmes to develop leadership skills through military based activities. Matt Johns led on the overall running, first of all looking at task management.

Task management was split into a 6 station process; Plan, Briefing, Control, Supporting, Informing and Evaluating.

Plan - When planning you need to think about, What are the aims of the task? What factors are going to affect outcomes? What options are open? Which way can you go? What's your plan going to be. You cant rush into the first option which comes into your head, you need to think about a range of things to create a plan which might have a chance of working. This process involves all team members, not just the leader. By involving the whole there is a sense of ownership on the plan and more of a buy in to then go and achieve it.

Briefing - Brief you team on the plan, what have you decided to do and how are you going to go about making that happen? Who will hold what role? Does everyone know what is happening and what is expected of them?

Control  - Where do you as the leader need to be in order to control the task? Do you need to be right in the middle? Or can you control from outside of the group?

Supporting - This isn't about turning into a happy clapper and praising the team regularly, it's about offering encouragement, explaining what is expected of the team and ensuring they live up to that. It's also about ensuring the team have everything they need to complete the task, have they got the right equipment and tools to be successful?

Informing - This isn't just a 1 way process. Informing work all across the team, ensuring that everyone who needs to know knows what is going on and at what stage they are at. This is about effective communication and working together to achieve an outcome.

Evaluating - reacting to what is happening. Making adjustments as necessary.

This isn't a stable process, you move in and out the the processes when needed. You might evaluate what's happening and need to create a new plan. Things will constantly change, but this process offer a structure to work to when leading.

Followership, my new favourite word, something we all need to be made aware of. Followership - leadership at all levels. Everyone in the team having an understanding of leadership. A team aren't dependant on how well the leader can lead, but how well the team can lead each other. In many senses followership is as important as leadership.

Following this talk by Matt was moved into our syndicate groups and completed a series of tasks, 1 person taking on the role as leaders accompanied by a vice-captain. I was chosen to lead the first task, the task was to get the team through a mine field without touching a mine, all sounds easy, but once you step onto the mine field, you become blinded. As it was the first task, I found it difficult. Not knowing my team , their strengths or them in general. We did't complete the task, the plan was changed numerous times and we nearly got there at the very end. If nothing else, this made me realise how important it is to get to know the people in your time, the need to think quickly and make decisions on the spot.

As we moved around, other team members led on tasks. It was really interesting to see how different students lead, they approach to tasks and then behaviour whilst doing so. It's great to learn off your peers, picking up hints and tips for what works and what doesn't work. The tasks were build with the necessity to use key leadership skills and competency skills. The need to followership, members to take ownership of parts of tasks, putting in jigsaw pieces to then create a bigger picture. Tasks of moving across spaces, moving barrels from spot to spot with different constraints.

Following the afternoon of tasks we returned to the barn for more talks. Martin Hewitt started off speaking around teamwork. Martin is an incredibly inspiring individual who was shot twice whilst serving in the British Army, now with a paralysed arm, Martin is still doing some extraordinary thins and is currently working towards The Adaptive Grand Slam, Martin plus his team of disabled individuals are currently attempting to climb the highest peaks in every continent. What better person to speak about teamwork?

'We can achieve a lot more than what we often think we can.' were Martin's words. wise. The main points around effective teamwork were to firstly to have a common aim with clear goals and objectives. Without an aim, you have nothing to work towards and you wont know what you've achieved. As it was said earlier, include the whole team on creating aim and objectives. Have team ownership. Ride out the storm, nothing will be plain sailing. It's the tough times which bring the team closer together. As I constantly say, 'The greater the struggle, the greater the victory' and that's certainly true. There needs to be trust and openness, create an environment where people can say things and be honest. Don't be afraid to speak up and voice your opinion.

You need to have an understanding of your team to be effective, having an understanding of each others' strengths and key skills, this allows the leader to maximise team efficiency, to then mitigate risk to maximise success.

Moving onto leadership, which was explained as a mixture of example, persuasion and compassion. It's just about you and using the skills you have to draw out the best from others. Leaders do what is right, they understand the factors within the situation.

Then effective communication led by Ollie, whose real name is Marcus, who is a negotiator within the police dealing with kidnappers and intense situations. Speaking about the ladder to gaining the right to ask certain questions and the skills set available to us when communicating. The behavioural change staircase works from the Initial Contact - opening lines and your first impressions, through to Empathy and Rapport -- relationship building, creating a connection, emotional bonding, Trust - to have confidence in you and to place reliance upon someone, then influence, persuasion and problem solving. We've got with us an armoury of tools, see the MOREPIES acronym below:
Minimal Encourager - small behaviours, nods of the head, 'and, so, go on.'
Open Questions, questions needing more than a 1 word answer.
Reflect & echo the last few words.
Emotional labelling - state the impressions, what are they feeling.
Paraphrase - Use different words of the speaker to gain clarity
Imessage - use the word 'I' and yourself.
Effective silences.
Summarising - what have you been told so far.

Dinner was then put on, my first hog roast experience was a pleasant one. Then we were spoken to by Olympic Gold medallist, in rowing, Heather Stanning. Having a military  background Heather was able to keep in with the theme. Explaining her experiences as an elite athlete but also time served in the military. The importance of knowing your team, more than just the people surrounding you, but those further back. She has been in many difficult positions and has had to make serious decisions about her military and sporting career, and as a true leader - making the right decisions. Leading people older and more experienced than herself, and career decisions which go against wanting to perform in championships because that was the right thing to do.

This was then followed by Joff Sharpe, a former SAS Captain and now business man. Joff has a book called 'Who Dares Wins in Business.' Joff had his own setbacks, taking a second attempt to gain a position within the SAS, his book leads a 10 step approach to successful leadership. A key message for me from Joff was to think outside the box, try something different.

A night of networking commenced followed.

5.40am, generators, fireworks, smoke bombs, explosions. That was some alarm. We were all instructed to get out of our yurts and head to the barn for a new bulletin. Hereford had been taken over and it was our job to protect the land.

The day was incredibly active, building on the first days tasks. Leadership continued through paint-balling activities, negotiating tasks, pulling a quad bike up a hill and talks with BUCS and Deloitte. Really putting into practice what had been taught. Paintball tasks similar to those on the front line in Afghanistan, working as a team to move forwards and attack opposition. Saving a body and bringing them back without being shot.

Negotiations tasks - trying to work with and save your team mate. Negotiating with a kidnapper in a caravan. Trying to use the communication skills we had learnt to full effect. Understanding that effective communication doesn't mean everyone speaking but, working to support 1 person working effectively.

Pulling a quad bike up a hill, learning to take in all of the information you are given to then create a plan. We had to retrieve a number of object to create a pulley system / winch which could them be used to retrieve the quad bike.

We then had a session speaking to Deloitte about future plans and tips for interviews. BUCS the held a sessions around interviews and answering competency based question using the acronym CAR-R. This method offers a framework to construct questions on.

C- Context, a little bit of background, set the scene.
Action - what did you do, not the team, you.
R- Result what happened, numbers? Outcomes?
Relate - relate the example to the job/ role which you are applying for.

The day concluded back with Matt Johns, Tom Lewthwaite and Stuart Milne.

I had the absolute pleasure of spending 2 days with 100 amazing students who really care about sport in their university. Although we're all competitive, we all worked together and really bonded within our groups. People who I hope to meet again and stay in contact with.

Although I learnt a lot off Fieri, my peers also proved to be teachers.

For me, the academy has influenced me to continue pushing to make a different within my role at university. An influence which has already made results following a meeting yesterday with students who are now looking to create a sports coaching society to support sports coaches and their development, the local community and individuals as people. Leadership skills from the academy put into action immediately, and already paying off. From the quotes I've pulled out across this blog, I've taken away messages which I'll hold onto. Conversations with individuals who really made an impact on me and my learning.

Huge thank you to the everyone who made the 2 days amazing. Graduates from the academy. BUCS for putting the academy together. Deloitte for the funding to make it all possible. Fieri for leading the 2 days, and for creating a fantastic learning environment.

Final thank you, for the guys who looked after me and my back :]


'Think of it as what you can put into it, not what you can get out of it.'